i want to get closer to a girl i work with but she's really high specs, we messaged like 3 times about work stuff and i felt there was a chance to get closer but she still acts the same, she keeps interaction to a minimum like just saying hi and often i'm always the first to say it, basically we never talk in person but she does talk to others and a lot... i fear she will hate me if i try any harder so how do i get her to talk first instead? i really don't wanna double text her😓