Being an "understanding person" is the worst kind of thing. You have to understand people's situations, their problems, their traumas. But when it comes to you, you will scream alone. And if you ask me what i want, what i really want is to be seen, to be heard, to be loved, don't invalidate my feelings and thoughts. i want someone check on me what i feel, what i want to share, i want you to ask me if i'm really okay. that's all i want.