I finally figured out the difference between being in love and loving someone. When you're in love, you obsess over the attention, affection, and how they make you feel. But that does not mean you love them. You can only love someone once those feelings go away; only then can you see their flaws and who they really are. And only then can you truly love them. Loving someone is not a feeling, it is the act of choosing to stay regardless of having "lost feelings".