2024-05-28 03:17
Avoidants - Using love to bring avoidants out of their internalised maladaptive beliefs does not work. While deep down they crave connection/emotional intimacy, their past experience from emotional neglect is - this need has always been abandoned by their caretaker. "If i allow myself to be emotionally intimate, I will be abandoned" is their subconsious belief. Consistent loving behaviour is EXACTLY what triggers their fears of emotional intimacy, and abandonment. The fade-out begins.