Now it doesn't mean the avoidant's feelings are not real, they are and do feel all those things for you. It is just that the stronger we attach to these grandiose expressions from them, the more brutal the discard would be. And in most cases, partners do. Unless somebody is emotionally unavailable, reciprocation of affection is a typical thing most people would do in a relationship, in a secure, healthy context. When we reciprocate love and care, we invest emotionally and grow attached.