Avoidants - Is the person they showed up as at the start of the relationship the real them or are they the person who discarded their partner? Alot of times what makes moving on so, bloody hard is that the sweet, warm, loving present individual who showed up at the start IS the real them. It is only natural to miss and long, and wish that through something we can do or could have done to bring that back. That person whom we dearly loved and would give everything for.