Most of us are so outwardly focused in relationships that we miss out on who we ARE and what is being revealed within us. We fixate on our partner or the relationship and say “if only I could solve (her, the relationship, the problem). It’s not about her. It’s about you. What you want, what you want to build, what you’ll tolerate, and what you won’t. Stop trying to solve / fix / or get something from a partner and see what’s happening in you.