Well I think you have to look at is it a lack of commitment or a preferred choice to stay single. The act itself isn’t a red flag.

No. I’ve had a past of abuse so I tend to stay single and celibate for years and years at a time. I’d rather preserve my peace.

I am 36 and never had a relationship, period 🤷🏻‍♀️ I never put much thought into, it was always “when I’m ready, I’ll make time. When I’m not selfish and self absorbed and can put energy into another person.” Now I’m ready and looking. I don’t personally think it’s a red flag, but maybe because I see the other side of it.

I know far too many people that stayed in bad relationships for years longer than they should have. Is that a redder flag than the people that leave when it first goes bad?

People put red flags on a bunch of meaningless stuff & then completely ignore red flags that are blatantly staring them in the face. Also what is a red flag to 1 is not a red flag to another so it doesn't matter what ya say people will judge no matter what so I always just do what I feel is right. I get told because I'm 50 & have no kids (although it's medical) that's a red flag 🤷‍♂️. By the way 5-6 years is a long relationship these days so I don't know why that would be considered a red flag.

5 or 6 years is a very high bar. If it was 5 or 6 months, then maybe. Although it's not black or white.

Yes. Men stay away from me for your own good, I’m dangerous.

No, not at all. I was 45 when I met my soulmate. He had never been in a relationship that lasted more than a year or so. We’ve been together now 11 years and are very happy… Sometimes you’re just the right one and it just took them sometimes to find you. Give yourself some credit! 

I am 40. After yrs of long relationships (3,4,5 years) I decided at 33 to study the science of love, did an MA in Psychology focused on that, then took off travelling for a few yrs,never settling bc my life was getting better & now at almost 41, I have just moved into the most beautiful apt in Dalt Villa Ibiza, have my own biz teaching & coaching. I’ve amazing friends here & hate the phrase but living my best life. If the man of my dreams comes along, gr8 but anything that’s not that, no tks!