Three months after she filed and we were divorced she married her coworker she was dating… (dating before we separated) I got custody of my kids and been raising them on my own for 9 yrs, still a single dad even now.

Ask your ex-husband lol. The woman filing doesn't always equate to the man having some come to Jesus moment. Her leaving is not always teaching a lesson. In my situation, we both were detrimental to the relationship. What made her file was she could hold me accountable but couldn't live to the same standard herself. What I learned is I shoulda been gone 3 years ago🤷🏿‍♂️

I’m a woman who filed first - can I answer? I spent 2-3years, BEGGING that man to communicate with me. Our first 3-4 years were great (2nd marriage for both). Then he shut down, started to criticize constantly. Then because I was “nagging” (trying to communicate) he started texting and messaging women online. So I eventually left. Did he learn anything? Probably not. He had the new girl move her things in before I had my things moved out. But I learned - never again. Single cat lady life for me!

Men think that if they are good providers that, that is the beginning and end. That no woman should ever have the audacity to leave them and they have the right to say and do whatever they want which is complete crap. Being a good provider is only part of it. Being committed and being a partner is constant work. Choosing to stay committed and close doesn’t just happen.

Highest divorce rates: lesbians Women will never be as content as men. Build a garden. Never chase butterflies.