Girl I have a “bff” of over half my life and she never tells me when she back in our home state without me basically digging it outta her and when I try to make plans she says ya definitely and then has zero communication with me… but tells everyone we’re bffs. I have another friend same length of time that’s actively dying right now and she always makes time for at least conversation and check ins… people who care show up somehow even if it’s in spirit so to speak.. no excuses.