You can fight harder or find a way to allow it to keep the peace. Divorces end with 1. a civil union - two people that can communicate and work together effectively, 2. bitterness of one or both partners continuing the fight to "win" - materialistic values and/or children or 3. letting go of the fight by one partner to keep the peace within - means losing children, control, money... Nothing is ours to begin with. Marriage was supposed to be uniting 2 souls (not 2 humans) with God. Oneness