I had a manager in a past job that would say things to me like: “do you even love the marketing field anymore? it doesn’t seem like you do” “you sugarcoat things about your passions” “if you just pretend like you have more career opportunities, you’ll get them” the coup de grâce to this was awkwardly telling a room full of my colleagues “he’s doing well, but we fucked up when we hired him because we didn’t know how he’d fit in”