I feel like if “they wanted to they would”, really mostly applies to younger people in the beginning of a relationship, and in that exact situation it wholly applies. If he ghosts you, move on, because if he wanted to, he would. Especially in the beginning… Not to say there’s no applications to a mature relationship or friendship, but that’s not really what it’s intended for.

Im not ok with accepting bare minimum, and I'm certainly not ok with being told not to express myself. Yes I have down days but I make it an effort to reach out: text, video chat or phone call. Using those resources could very well help with someone's anxiety, depressive moments, people are helping others to overcome, folk just choose not to see.

I don't really mind, cos it's understandable that no one would bother with me.

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For me, it's when I can see people doing things for others but not me that hurts. I am well aware of mental health struggles and other situations but when it's clear they're treating other people differently than me that's when I get upset. And it's exhausting being the only one reaching out (which is why I've mostly stopped)

YES. I said the same thing before I had kids. Now, they come first and everything else comes after. Sometimes, I literally can't.

Hear you & totally would’ve agreed, until I had a man who LIVES & breathes “if he wanted to he would.” Now I fully get it. It’s an energetic componentthat I think is important and I wouldn’t settle for anything less now. Important to note the saying includes clear communication. If something is going to hinder him from doing something, he communicates that immediately. Thus showing, he does want to & it might look different temporarily b/c of __. I’ve found the statement to be true in dating

ok so, first i tend to hear this context in dating to romantic, committed relationships—not in other forms of relationships. for me, it comes down to mutuality. if one person is prioritizing relationships as being in contact at least once a day, and the other is a “whenever they get around to it”, then this is an evenly yoked issue and not necessarily one person being unfairly treated. now, if the one person is (for a lack of a better word) “ok” with the imbalance as it is at the other person’s