This is a really important article Tracey and you are right, this idea of a fight against illness which is quickly won and over with is really not helpfull.

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Great piece. If you haven't already read it, you might appreciate One Body by Catherine Simpson who absolutely takes her boots to the 'positivity battle' narrative of serious illness. Plus the book is bloody funny.

Best wishes!

So sorry to read this, Tracy. I read ‘Patient’ a few years ago and yes, I thought you were both through it. I loved the new album, too. Wishing you both all the best, but, man, it must be so tough. Take care xx

So much love to you both ❤️

Beautifully written! I have an inoperable brain tumour and I might be around 7 months or 15 years. No one knows. The one thing I do know is how much I am bothered by toxic positivity. I have started to answer "how are you?" with "still here which in itself is a triumph." It tends to give people an exact idea of how I am feeling and limits thoughtless comments quite nicely. Hugs to you both and what you're going through.

Thank you for choosing to share to this extent, Tracey. It’s much valued! As are both of you and the things you put out into the world.

Sending love x

Thank you for writing this. As you say - we can't share their pain but it takes a toll on both of you - all too often we fail to recognise this. And god, you were only 29! That's some relationship you've got there! Love to you both.