I read a thread, thank God I lost it in the feed, that was going on about these "gay coded" men in church & how three church is great for closeted men to hide because we won't ask... did it ever occur that we don't ask because we assume positive intent? Ppl kept asking if my husband was gay early in our relationship because they felt he didn't present as "straight enough" in their minds. My non-Christian friends would interrogate him, constantly, about his sexuality....(1/)