I believe in providing a positive experience to guests at my home. But my home is not a restaurant where people are paid to cater to individual tastes and preferences. If we have a gathering, we are cooking for the majority. This is why I don’t get upset if I attend a big gathering at someone else’s home and there’s few items or nothing that meets my very specific food preferences and allergies. The event isn’t about me and I’m not the only guest. I can just enjoy good company. Is that so hard