Neurotypicals would believe an excuse ignores other “obvious” ways you could solve a problem. Eg “I can’t help being late there’s traffic”= yes you can, get up earlier. To a Neurodivergent person, 90% of the time a reason is something the neurotypical person can understand or relate to. An excuse is something they can’t. Eg “I have trouble getting up early because I can’t sleep because I’m suffering autistic burnout.” = Everyone’s tired, just go to bed earlier.