I’m sorry not everyone is showing you compassion & grace. You are doing exactly as you were advised by your vet & what’s right for your little cat. We were in exactly your position back in June but with two little girls 🤯 We found all you can do is offer extra love & understanding to your baby. Ours were so affectionate & had the softest cries, making us feel helpless. Highly recommend catnip/catmint, Feliway Optimum diffusers, silverline sticks, soft blankets to get you through to her spay.