In todays world yep and most think sex is love

What type of attention??? Mother Nature has set up systems for getting attention. Some involve getting attention from friends and family. Others are for getting attention for mating purposes. No, you don't need to sexualize yourself to get attention, but at our adult age, getting attention means being honest about needing that attention. If our family and friends aren't available then we may need to pay a therapist.

No not always. It's definitely common though. There are some guys that as sapiosexual or demisexual and will engage differently but your perception also matters.