you went wrong at “wanting to defend straight men” i hope you take that same defense & use it for folks whom are actually marginalized, especially as a bi man

The idea that something is what all or even the majority of any group do is untrue. To be blanket- blamed for what you don’t do and haven’t done is a problem. Bi men are more than capable of harming women and often do, but that doesn’t make bi men “the problem” any more than “straight men” are.

Literally a daily occurrence

You don't have to come out to our defense; if we're being called out on something, then more often than not it's warranted. And if it isn't directed at us but we feel offended all the same, then we clearly aren't introspecting enough to understand why. But either way don't trouble yourself; keep thriving on your own and just hope that some of us find ways to pull ourselves out from the trash or not ✌🏽🖤

As a gay man, same. Then I spent more time on here the last few days, saw and engaged with some straighties. All I can say is ew.

Maybe it's because I identified as straight for most of my life. Maybe it's because I have a preference for the opposite gender (women). Maybe it's because a lot of my besties are straight men. But yeah I do that too, ngl.

This happens to me with cis men. I just kinda forget I’m not cis sometimes.

Also at the person in the comments who said basically "don't defend straight men, defend minorities" Uh........ buddy, some minorities are straight men. Their life experiences are going to be wildly different than a white, cishet guy. If I described to you a straight trans guy of color, do you think he's less worthy of being defended because he's straight and masculine? Don't be absurd.

common, its a weird and interesting position 'straight passing' bisexual men are in. it gives me an endless introspection topic.

As a bi enby, I forget briefly and then remember how that's the kind of behavior that has made me feel alienated by masculinity in general for my whole life (at least the straight version of it)