"Should I tell my mother that her words and behavior are hurtful to me? How should I approach it?" Dear Adult Daughter... I will never forget a conversation I had 15-ish years ago with my father-in-law, who died in 2015. He was a soft-spoken, unassuming, and very wise Lutheran pastor originally from Canada. I was telling him about the difficult relationship I had with my mother and what I might do to make it better. 2/10