It doesn’t justify it but I feel like, culturally, this is the type of girl Utah raises. They’re never actually girls-girls and all secretly in competition. Even down to mothers and daughters. They’re so used to living this superficially “friendly” life that they’re shocked when called out on abhorrent behaviors. They don’t have coping skills because they’ve never actually lived in reality. Just skirting by on the way to a celestial they’re banking on.