One thing I started doing a while back, was to reassure my neurodivergent friends that them being picky about food is not an issue when they visit and that I will do my best to accommodate their comfort around food by asking what they are comfortable eating before I make food for them, making it clear that they are under no obligation to eat whatever I serve, and that I will never take it personally if they don't like what I've cooked kr tell me they'd rather order something.