"That's their experience, not mine." "This is their journey, not my journey." “This is their story, not my story” “This is their karma, not my karma” My girlfriend taught me one of the best mantras. I added a few more of my own. It’s been an easy way for me to set healthy mental boundaries. It’s super helpful to those of us who tend to absorb the feelings and experiences of others or find ourselves offering unsolicited help to them.