You're not only losing your spouse, you're probably losing your former way of life and many of the people in it. Be prepared to reinvent yourself, and treasure the friends and family who stick with you through the transition.

Don't skip the forensics over his financials. I didn't, thought I was being nice, since I managed our family finances. He still figured out a way to scheme 6-figures of cash, having his employer wait to distribute it until after we started splitting our bank accounts up during the separation. But he earned it during our marriage so half was supposed to be mine/kids 😡🤬

Get a good lawyer. Shop around until you find one that understands your situation 100%.