normalize cutting family including parents off when they have showed you over and over again they do not choose you. Your dad gets to come in and out and break you and your hubby as yo pick up the pieces and fix you everytime. Try to look at it from his perspective as well. it has to be draining for him . and bear in mind his actions are reactions to things you have said to him about your dad. ig's not about forgiveness really. Extend your hubby the same Grace u extending your father .