The unexpected ways serious trauma can sneak up on us: It was 2013, and I was on vacation in the San Blas Islands with my boyfriend (now husband). We were sitting outside our beach hut, casually playing cards. He’s been playing cards his whole life, while I had barely touched a deck. Naturally, he was wiping the floor with me, which was to be expected, but as the game went on, something very unusual started happening to me. Every time my moves were shut down by him, I felt a surge of…