Belum kawin dan patner ada trauma,depression,bipolar & etc. betul kita sayang,tapi kena sayang diri kita juga. Nak kawin dgn org di uji begini,kita tak boleh kosong-kosong, kita tak boleh bodoh, kita tak boleh ignorant. Kalau kita sendiri dah ada too much on our plate, please do justice for ourself and the relation , backoff. Kita tahu kemampuan diri kita,tak mampu backoff, nothing wrong with that. Its very healthy for both party when talking about capacity.