to look at how we've hurt others, we need the ability to forgive ourselves. to know how to forgive ourselves, we have to look at the root of our pain, the causes of our harmful acts. to look at the root of our pain, we need a wide net of love. for a wide net of love, we need to reestablish our connection to the community, the earth, the universe. we need to relearn how to feel held, how to feel safe. a complex subject, these are some of my thoughts/experience. what are yours?