But to counter, some of these also have very reasonable causes. (These are my personal reasons, everyone’s mileage may vary). Of course, your partner SHOULD communicate and changes with you. I would in my car 10-15 minutes before going in so I could make sure any BS from work was as far out of my mind as possible. My phone stays face down because of my ADHD. If it goes off consistently, then I have to pick it up. My partner deserves my attention, not the glowing screen.