Not a looker by any means and I’m late 50s. What I am now vs what I was. A stroke caused me to be depressed, gain weight, and I truly struggled. You lose a lot of things too (money, people, your physicality, and memories) I am still overall fat. I will still will have fat/thinner phases but I will continue to get healthier. It would be great to have a social life but focused on my two businesses is kind of hard in this economy and in SF bay, the expectations of the opposite sex isn’t too kind.