Fourth Wing reread - with spoilers if you haven’t read Iron Flame Xaden: “Didn’t realize it was quite like that between you,” (re: Lilith’s relationship with Violet) She made a deal with Xaden and her price was Violet’s safety in the quadrant. Of course he doesn’t understand the cold shoulder indifferent attitude. If anyone knew Lilith loved her daughter it was him. But he was used to a loving father.