And now even though it does feel pretty shitty to be lonely, I feel that being lonely is the right thing to be now. I am “over” my ex wife and I have made massive progress in my own mental health; I haven’t fully finished processing all the emotions yet. Anger, frustration, sadness, etc. I’ve come far enough that it probably wouldn’t be an issue, but I still don’t feel like it would be fair to the other person, or to myself because it would be distracting me from processing those emotions.