Rule 9. If the price of admission for your relationship is to give up part of yourself in exchange for their presence, then the price is too high. Rule 14. The family you create is more important than the family you come from. Rule 62. No one wants you to be yourself. They want you to be the version of you that they like. Rule 63. There's a difference between being liked and being valued. Lots of people like you, not many value you. Be valued.