I cut ties and wished I had sooner. You will be glad you did. What WILL happen is that you will have more peace and joy in your life. I used to think it was important to 'just be civil" bc they are family. No. There is no more hate, hateful tones, hateful words, misogynistic words and N word at the dinner. No, you can bring in peaceful words, thots, and events into your life.