At 14, it was a mean girl move. It was rooted in bias. It was internalized misogyny. As a mom, I think about all the times my own daughter was shamed for being different. I think about how much I hate that where we live is still steeped in bias against anyone who isn’t white, frustrated that the motivations of men pit us against each other. I sit here and hope like hell she has forgotten about me, that I was just an annoying white girl from her past memories. I hope she’s doing great. 2/3