They're gonna struggle regardless of what you /want/. How you guide them through it, letting them do the actual work, builds resilience in their person and trust in your wisdom.

Real take here im from a latin american country my parents tried to give me evreting they culd ( im tankfull for that ) but still a grew a litle bit acistomed to geting evreting handed to me when i began to search for work fosrt time it was a shock when i got fired for doing the bare minimum expecting the hand me down treatmen of her beguin slow well help you with everything ( let them struggle a litle and help them too ) life is about balance a litle bit of evriting creates a balanced person

Your husband is right 🙏🏻

Both / and As a parent, we can’t really prevent our kids from struggling. There will always be things that happen to them / things from within that will lead to struggle. Teaching the skills and modeling the mindset of continuing to try & fail & try again are good things that will serve them as they grow. We ALL struggle, finding solidarity and commonalities with others in their struggles can also be powerful. 1/2

I'll tell you what I know from my own life experience and from raising our own two boys - it applies equally to any child. Becoming a capable confident adult requires practice in getting up after falling down, coming back from disappointment and managing unpleasant situations without paralyzing fear. These can't be learned without practice. That means they need to fall down, experience disappointment and at least observe someone close to them handling unpleasant situations courageously. 1/3

I struggled I was molste** I was abused I was a degenerate I was talked down to but look at me now Depressed Can’t learn to go math right Stuck at a job that won’t help me make it Also to add I don’t like people I hate looking in the mirror MAKE SURE YOUR KIDS DON’T STRUGGLE AT ALL

Maybe it depends on what you're calling struggle. But at the end of the day, a child who has never faced and overcome adversity do tend to be more fragile and less resilient than those who have.

Your husband may be wrong, depending on how much struggling he wants them to face and in what context. You are definitely wrong wanting them to never struggle

Let them struggle. I've seen results from over protectiveness. It does not help 😔

I think they need a little bit of struggle, I’d be happy to have a safety net that they weren’t aware of. IMHO it’s the difficulty in life that maketh the person