There’s just no way to describe the suffering of chronic illness. To have fought chronic illness for 17 years and finally got a wall is very defeating. I don’t know why some people get healed and others don’t. I’ve noticed in the west we are terrible at sitting with people in suffering. We want to make it okay so we don’t have to sit in the hard, so we often offer advice or tell the person it’s their own fault they are suffering. Just sit with people. Say, “This is so hard, I’m so sorry.”