then, a few weeks ago (so before the election): one of my tables was 2 older white couples & I said something similar when they were trying to tell me what they wanted to order. when I saw the delight in the women’s eyes after saying that, I followed up: “women should be in charge of ALL decisions” and one of the men goes, “well maybe not ALL” and I flatly said, “yes, all. men have been in power for far too long.“ he replies, “well I can’t argue with you there” (wasn’t expecting THAT response)