2/ I just learned that after FIVE MONTHS 2 still hasn’t fucking told their spouse about me and I’m just. Numb. Devastated. We were involved before but it was when their spouse had a firm “dont ask don’t tell” attitude. Suddenly they want to be informed about 2’s dating and I want spouse to know and 2 didn’t tell EITHER OF US directly?? I don’t know what to feel. Betrayed. Mad for 2’s spouse. Numb. Why?