It was 10 years ago when my sister told me “you can’t take on people’s emotions as your own” as I was breaking down over something a friend was going through. And in that moment, was when I actively started working to separate the feelings. I sometimes have to repeat it to myself “don’t take their emotions as your own” but I find that asking “do you want my advice or an ear?” is a good start. And then I just continually ask questions to guide them to their answer so the emotions stay with them.

I am actively learning this right now. There's a lesson in there about attachment styles. Find healing in holding space for others without letting it affect how you react. It's really hard when you come from spaces of needing the very things you pour yourself into providing for others. I'm really starting to ground myself in not projecting my needs. If I feel like someone needs the thing, I ask myself if it's really me who wants to give because I need it too or if it's a genuine ask from them 💌