You’re putting bi women in a box. Not all bi women are the same.

Because lesbians are avoiding possible trauma. People like to scream about biphobia, but bi women who will choose a man because it's "easier" exist, bi women who will compare men and women exist, bi women who want only masc/femme presenting lesbians and would be straight up disgusted by the opposite exist, bi women who are using lesbians for "exploring" exist. Bi women who use lesbians as "healing" exist. Not all bi women are like this, obviously. But some are