Get up with the baby in the middle of the night. If she’s nursing, you can grab the baby and change the diaper and help in other ways. Also I know when I would nurse in the middle of the night right after we got home with our daughter, I would have violent temperature swings so I would go from hardly wearing anything to bundling up. Check on her comfort during these times and bring her water, snacks, an extra blanket or even help her change clothes if she needs it.

Eat nothing with garlic or onion before, during, or immediately after labor. 🤢

Congratulations! Plan for a delicious first meal for both of you after birth!

Shower her with praise. Immediately after delivery, tell her how proud of her you are, how much you love her. Thank her for your baby. And continue that after you are home. The work of a mother is so difficult, and we quite often feel like we’re failing. Being reminded by our partner that they see the work we’ve been doing, and they’re proud of us, is invaluable. That’s what got me through my postpartum haze

NEVER say you are tired, cause she knows and she is tired too. Especially in the first couple of weeks or when she is breastfeeding: believe me, she is probably more tired and it is sooo triggering to hear that.

Here's what my husband did, which was perfect. Take as much paternity leave as you can. While in hospital, learn baby care from the nurses like it's your job, and do all the night work so your wife can recover. When you get home, make sure to take a shift with the baby EVERY DAY for at least 4 hours so she can sleep. You'll be a better caregiver from getting regular practice, and small babies can make good gaming companions or whatever else you enjoy.

Just remember. When one partner is home with baby and the other is working. Both are on the job. So the moment you are both home, shift 2 of the day start, where you are a team and share the workload. But you both will figure things out and you'll do great

Congratulations! I’m almost 9mos in with twins as a first-time Dad. Here’s some random tips: -be as active and helpful as possible. -your wife is going to be wrecked for a while. Her brain, hormones, etc will need time. Take initiative and don’t wait to be asked to do stuff -try and let her sleep as much as allowed -helping make sure she eats/drinks water -try and make time for her to do something for herself and only for herself. She’ll appreciate it more than either of you will know

Rub her feet and back, if that’s something she enjoys. Expect both of you to be on an emotional rollercoaster. Like just crying when you see your baby sleeping at night. If you notice your wife is in a funk, have her check out postpartum support international, and be a safe space for her to talk to you about whatever is on her mind. And make sure you are remembering appointments and important dates as much as she is.

Make sure whatever her breastfeeding snack is (oreos, power bars, etc) are bought in bulk and ALWAYS in your home and always near where she decides to breastfeed. I don't care how much you like them, do not EVER consume them yourself. They belong to her and nobody else. Do not let friends or family touch them. Postpartum hormones are wild, and combined with lack of sleep, you do not want to poke the bear.