Dinner last night got chaotic. A Black fitness instructor said she didn’t want to do Pilates because it’s a predominantly white space, & a woman at the table got defensive about it. So I asked her, “What’s your ethnicity?” Her man jumps in, “She’s not white, she’s Russian.” And I’m like, “So you don’t consider that Caucasian?” I can’t say I understand “white guilt,” but why get offended when people talk about racial disparities? Why not listen to understand a different perspective?