Start Off Slow. If you’ve never talked dirty to your man before, or it’s been a long time since you were both horny teenagers, start slow, without being extremely explicit. You don’t want to freak him out, or make him think you’re having an affair because your sexual behavior suddenly changes so drastically. Tease him a little. Don’t go all the way to the extreme with your dirty phrases. Say something like, “you are so sexy to me,” and go from there.