Considering the forgiveness is not about the one who hurt you it's about you? So you can move on

Forgiveness is misunderstood. We can't forgive someone who is not sorry and asked for Forgiveness. We can however forgive ourselves for holding on to pain etc. Happy acceptance and then letting go, is the only way to heal and that doesn't mean forgetting. It does mean acknowledging we learned a wonderful lesson that doesn't define who we are.