1. The same trauma that threatens to undo you can be your greatest fuel. My family of origin is beset by serious mental health difficulties. I did not come out of that unscathed. I have had a very hard time with conflict, confrontation and directness in my personal life, because I've so often been punished for just being honest and being me, and especially for expressing my anger, even if only verbally. Jiujitsu has been an incredible outlet for me to start to unwind all that and become whole.