I think it’s really the partnership that you choose and what you allow at the beginning of the marriage to set the stage. I married for love gave up my youth and my life dreams thinking I was sacrificing for love. In the end I was called fat after kids which took some time to loose the weight was not Allowed to do most of the things I enjoyed in life and was expected to just play the role of care taker while he chased his dreams only after 23 years to be called fat ugly and old.