Pretty leading question, like you want to hear a certain narrative. Overall, of course there's those look in the mirror moments. Wanting insight into those moments is one thing, but wondering whether they happen at all, really?

I would love to hear more about this once you get more info!! As women we need to be able to know what this process looks like, in order to understand men, and support them, as well as be able to discern who is where in their journey, and what it truly takes to shift into heart centered alignmtment living. Looking forward to your piece :) I hope you get some brave men willing to share!

Never thought of myself as a "nice guy" but I used to micromanage my interactions so that I would never "hurt" the other person (make them feel bad in any way) and it resulted in a comforting false persona that other people learned to rely upon. However, it was impossible to maintain, and so I eventually let them all down, resulting in deeper hurt than if I'd just let myself be a little less gentle. Took a while for that guilt to solidify into honesty but it did eventually.

The general moment of realization I would say, is when a crack in the facade happens. In some difficult situation or argument you finally snap and lash out and realize, maybe I'm not so nice after all. Then trying to not fall into a pit of self-hatred over it. Slowly have to challenge and peel away your whole persona and feel like, who even am I. Learning to be a little selfish and that's not only ok but actively respected by people. But trying not to overcompensate and become another a-hole