Sometimes as the primary parent I can feel so resentful and triggered by little things. My kids have been through trauma and have gone through therapy but still have all their big emotions with me while dad gets to experience the calm well behaved kids. I know they act like that with me because I’m their safe person. But it’s still hard and feels so unfair. I broke down and just felt it all. 30 minutes later my oldest comes into my room for snuggles. Then I remember why it’s all worth it.